My A-Z theme for the month of April is romance and the modern, technology-driven cubicle dweller (like me). Flirting goes as hand-in-hand with romance as dating. At least as far as I’m concerned. I also think when it’s done right, it’s a lot harder to define because it’s frequently unintentional.
So what’s flirting done wrong? That’s easy. Every cheesy pickup line you’ve ever heard. Yeah, okay, sometimes they work, and when they’re done in jest, the joke can be worth the cringe-factor. I even knew a guy who met his girl with the line “I lost my phone number, can I have yours?”
But as an overall approach, I’d rather see it be genuine. A sincere compliment, a real laugh at something interesting, a shared interest that leads to a longer conversation. And the best thing about technology and the life of a cubicle-dweller? It doesn’t have to be done in person.
Don’t misunderstand, a properly delivered “Did you do something to your hair? It looks good.” Accompanied by a smile, and a softening around the eyes, is still super sexy when you’re already attracted to someone. But even note via messenger, twitter, inner-office chat…
A quick, “Loved your thoughts on synergy during team building. Practice in person?”, or “Have lunch with me, gorgeous?” or anything like that…when that sexy-someone is taunting with brief, promise-filled blurbs, there’s just something alluring – something that sends a pleasant chill up the spine.
Flirting – easier said than done, never worth the effort, or enticing when the mood and the other person are right?
Topically, I’m trying to decide if something a colleague at work said to me was meant to be flirty or just nice. I’ve sort of crushed on him (for years) and he’s waaaaaay out of my league, but only this week, when he said that thing to me (which was not an obviously flirtatious line, but could be taken that way) did I feel maybe my “fake crush” was more serious than I thought…So I reckon I’m all for flirting, wherever it may be, so long as both parties are being honest/clear about their intentions and not just messing each other about.
Some Dark Romantic
Customers flirt with me at work all the time. I really enjoy it with some of them, especially the older guys, but sometimes it’s really creepy.
Staff, not so much… Im at least 15 years older than most of them, so they’re not really my type. Maybe in a few years when I get old enough to be a cougar….. No! That’s just gross.
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I’m pretty bad at flirting, but only in that I’m super shy and sometimes can’t even make eye contact! No cheesy pick-up lines from me. LOL
I will admit, I don’t understand flirting. Never have. I would never know if someone ever flirted with me cause I wouldn’t think they would do that to begin with. As a kid when my friends started saying we had to have a crush on a boy (I didn’t see why at the time) after I told them a boy’s name, they said I flirted with him by just saying hi once. But when me and a different boy would kick each others chairs and such during class, joking around, that wasn’t considered flirting at all. Did not make sense.
I still can’t tell if someone is ever flirting with me. *sighs* Oh well.