My A-Z theme for the month of April is romance and the modern, technology-driven cubicle dweller (like me).
Here’s the thing about my them for the A-Z challenge this year. I never want to imply that there’s a ‘normal’ way to do romance, and then there’s the geek, or modern, or technology influenced way.
Because honestly, there’s no such thing as normal when it comes to most broad spectrums. Sure, there can be a pattern to something that repeats itself (marketing figures, grades), but when you’re talking about a large group of people, unless your statement applies to 100% of them (and it won’t, not hardly ever) there is no good way to use ‘normal’.
So I don’t think there’s such a thing as a normal romance. I don’t think love and affection and relationships can be bound up in the description of ‘we dated for six months, he proposed on our fifty-third date, and we were married fourteen months later, just like everyone I know.’
And that’s what makes exploring it so much fun. Any thoughts of definitions I have posted or will post are my thoughts on the matter, but it doesn’t mean they’re the only way, and they’re certainly not a definition of normal.
Sometimes a seduction at an anime convention can be the perfect place to fall in love, and other times, candlelit dinner actually will do the trick.
And really, who wants to be normal anyway?
Normal is boring….
Very true. There isn’t really a normal. My mom and dad dated a couple months before they got engage and soon found out she was pregnant and couple months later married. Got divorced when I was 5. Mom and stepdad dated for 4 years before getting married. Still married today though right now they are doing long distance as she needed to get out and work somewhere else.
I’m dating someone I met online a few years ago. We see each other once a year right now, though plan to someday change that. But for now, it works. We all have our own stories and what will work.
My Grandmother met her second husband when she was technically still married, but those two have been married now for well over 20 years, I’d say close to 30 but I don’t know exactly when they married.
Just never know what will work and what won’t.
I try to avoid being normal at all times, and at all costs!
You are so right – Who wants to be normal anyway??? I think romance, in and of itself, is out of the normal anyway, unfortunately.